By: Pam Hardison
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2 Winning Strategies to use NOW for Their Success After High School
Did you buy Boardwalk or that Railroad? While we parents had fun “back in the day” playing monopoly, we knew we had to think ahead to do well.
As parents, those dice get rolled and we face the unknown. As we barrel toward graduation and saying goodbye to our teens, we have to update our strategy as parents in order to reach and teach our “nearly grown” teens. You’ve got so much left to cover with them, but often their attention is focused elsewhere.
These strategies can up our parent teaching game in this last “at home” season we have with them:
#1 Talking Tall vs. Talking Small
Have you ever taught your child how to handle conflict? Words matter and they can be used to solve potential issues before they even arise. Have you ever heard someone say “she’s rude”, “he’s stupid”, or any other putdown word you can think of? Odds are the person using that language is frustrated at a situation, not a person.
Let’s teach our kids how to direct that frustration at the situation instead of a person.
Instead of “she’s rude” a better way to say it could be “what she SAID was rude”. Do you see how this kicks back the conflict a notch? Teach your teen to transfer the negative they wish to convey away from the actual person. This is a skill that can be practiced. Your teen will benefit as well as their future spouse, roommate, boss, and teacher.
#2 Ask Wacky Questions
Give your questions a fun twist to allow sneaking in education points. Let’s say you want your “nearly grown” to begin researching potential careers so as they move toward graduation they are better prepared to know which direction to take in terms of courses, colleges or straight to work force
As a teen, I drove by tall buildings and saw those dedicated window washers seemingly balanced on a toothpick, I wondered how much they get paid to take all that risk. Today, with the internet, it is easy to research future careers from what a typical day is like to how much it might pay.
So how can you get your “nearly grown” to hit the research career road? In a conversation ask them about a career that might catch their attention. How much does a movie producer make, or a lab technician or . . . well, you get the idea. Get them to look and report back. So, how much does a skyscraper window washer make? They make $33,000/yr on average.
Often the best learning is found at the crossroads of education and fun. Conclusion? Ask wacky opened-ended casual questions on topics you want to discuss with your child.
Parents, take heart. Many scientists suggest that while our teens look like adults, the logical, reasoning and communication side of their brain is still developing while their emotional side is practically complete. When you get those “eye rolls” and the “whatevers” remember they just might be giving you all they’ve got at the moment. They will ultimately achieve balance and yes, a smoother relationship with you.
What wacky open-ended questions can you think of to introduce a teaching topic to your teen?
Special thanks to guest author, Pam Hardison for her expressive writing and solid advice for parents.